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A Voice Becoming Study Together – Jan/Feb “Women LOVE”

Did you think we’d forgotten the next chapter?  January and February months are focusing on how we get to love. Here are some ideas to apply this February…

Chapter 7 – Women LOVE

4 IDEAS for focusing on LOVE in the Bible together…

  1. Study the story of Ruth and Naomi
  2. Priscilla Shirrer’s Teen Study: Radiant
  3. Dive into the friendship of Jonathon and David
  4. Look up and study the 4 types of love we find in the Bible:
  • Storge (empathy)
  • Philia (friendship)
  • Eros (romance)
  • Agape (Unconditional God’s love)

Watch & Read

A few movies to open up discussions on LOVING well:

  • Pretty Faces
  • Soul Surfer
  • Love Different
  • Beaches
  • The Help
  • Secret Life of Bees

A few books to consider:

  • Crazy Love by Frances Chan
  • Everybody Always by Bob Goff
  • Love Does by Bob Goff

Experience…

1. Daddy/Daughter Time

Encourage a daddy/daughter date night or trip. If your daughter normally does a Father/Daughter dance consider helping them create their own at home this year!

2. Write Letters

Encourage your daughter to love on others this month by writing a letter to someone to tell them how special they are to her.

3. Door Doilies (You can buy these at the Dollar Store right now!)

Put 14 HEART Doilies on everyone’s door in your home. Encourage everyone to write things on them that they love about each person.

Praying for you!

I hope these ideas help as you focus on loving this month! We would LOVE to hear how it’s going–and if you have things to add to the list please let us know so we can share it with other moms also. Praying for all of you as you lead your daughters through this year. If you have gotten behind–now is a great time to jump back in! Just jump in on Chapter 7 and try some of these ideas this month as you are able.

Much love from my house to yours!

Andrea

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A Voice Becoming Study – Nov/Dec “Women Lead” Chapter…

Women Lead

Y’all I hope these emails turn out okay as I create them pecking on my iPhone while a preschooler plays, and I plan for this sweet time with my teenage daughter alongside many of you! I hope you all had AMAZING, unforgettable “Launch Trips”—now it’s time to jump in!

November/December Bucket List
The first theme we are jumping into for our daughter’s “Becoming Journey” is Women Lead. On page 87 in your book “A Voice Becoming” there are some questions for YOU to reflect on in your own leadership growth amd how you have used your gifts and talents to benefit others. My fav: What are some aspects of leadership that you want to impart to your daughter?

When Laney was a baby, God used us to help start a school in Zambia (Wiphan.org). While many encouraged, there were always voices that said “just focus on your home because that is your mission field”. So much truth to that, but the Lord was calling us to even MORE outside our home. How thankful I am we followed and this ministry thrives today as our children have been shaped much by it.

When Laney turned 5, the Lord called us to grow through adoption, and then the following year start a ministry for foster and adoptive moms. Again—that voice of uncertainty came but sweeter, stiller and stronger was HIS CALL. I hope to challenge my daughter in the next two months to follow His call no matter the noise of good intentions or of the world. The Lord will equip our girls for His call no matter what is already on their plates. Leaders raise their plates to Him allowing Him to place the portions.

There will also be seasons where the Lord says slow down or not right now to great things—and the call to step aside for others to lead will be just as important for them to follow.

Get Inspired…Nov/Dec

The goal for NOVEMBER & DECEMBER will be to learn from other women who have lead well. A handful of local moms met at the barn to help come up with a “Bucket list” (above) for you to use or inspire you creating your own! Of course there may not be time to do them all, but we pray the next 2 months as you focus on learning from different leaders this list might help!

Another great activity to start this 2 month theme with is making a list together of qualities a leader has. When you see your dear daughter loving out these traits—affirm her and speak words of life to her acknowledging she is beginning to walk in these ways and you SEE it!

I will post the bucket list we made on our Facebook page! If you aren’t on Facebook but want it please just text me (404-667-0077)and I can text it to you to print off. (Disclaimer: We haven’t listened to every podcast, movie or read listed yet! Many were recommended on leadership so the most recommended we added to the list!)

Also a leadership idea! Those of us who met at barn are going to gather to make Jesse Trees for our daughters to lead Advent devotions for siblings. Think of ways your daughter might can lead even in your home in these 2 months. She might need your help and even to share the load with you—but maybe this is another sweet thing you could do together.

Praying for all of you as you love your girls big and well!

Much love from the farm!

Andrea Young

”She was unstoppable, not because she didn’t have failures or doubts but because she continued on despite them.” —Christine Caine

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October – Launch Trip

I’m posting this months after our trip…but wanted to document for this mommas to use later and come back to year after year!

Mother/Daughter Year Together!

Hopefully, most of you have gotten your book “A Voice Becoming” in the mail or on your Kindles by now. There are just 4 chapters in the first part that are VERY quick and easy to read. When we got together a few weeks ago, we decided we would try to read through PART ONE by October.

PART ONE is just preparing YOU for the exciting year leading your daughter. The BIG thing you need to be thinking about right now is WHERE you can take her to invite her into this exciting year! Be thinking about a place her for a weekend away in October to start this journey.

ALSO–if you have some friends who would like to be added to the monthly encouragement emails filled with ideas to go along with this book you can forward this email or just share this email signup link: http://eepurl.com/hb8ZUH

If you ever want a quick reference–I am ALSO posting the emails and info on my family blog website and you can just go to Mother/Daughter year at: www.theyoungfamilyfarm.com

So…go ahead and keep reading PART ONE this month. Chapter 1, 2 and 3 will prepare you for what the year and topics will be about. Chapter 4 will have example invitation letters similar to the one you will give your daughter on your weekend together. I will share a couple as well in the email you receive on October 1st as well as a PDF that you can just easily tweak if you want to tweak mine and make it your own!

Ideas for a weekend away with your girl this October…

Just a few ideas of beautiful places to take your girly away to! If you have ideas to add please jump on the Facebook page “The Barn Gathering – A Voice Becoming” and give us your ideas!

We are praying for you and your daughter as you prepare to ask her to join you on this journey to BECOMING all God made her to be! This truly is going to be an exciting year you both will never forget.

Blessings for the Barn!

Andrea

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Mother/Daughter Year Together (A Voice Becoming…Chapter 2)

Hey mommas! I hope you are doing well! We are working through Part 1 of “A Voice Becoming” during this month and October with the goal to take your daughter on her “Launch” trip in October if you decided to do the year alongside us. If you are waiting for a special year down the road–awesome! These notes will remain posted on my blog for you to print out and use later for yourself or for any moms you may be doing this with also. (Chapter 1 is posted on our FB group and will remain on my blog:)

Here are a few of my notes and questions from Chapter 2 that I want to think about…

Processing who I am a woman and what I want to pass down to my daughter. What do I want to pass down? What do I want to let go of?

(Grab a coffee…and process these in your heart and mind…)

  • Who am I?
  • What is my story?
  • What are the parts of my story that have grown me deeper in my role as a woman who longs for more of Jesus?

I love Beth’s questions on page 18…”What about femininity have I wrestled with all these years and how can I prevent her from wrestling with the same things? What am I still wrestling with?

  • Who are other women I can invite into helping my daughter transition from girlhood to BECOMING who God designed her to be? Pray about this!
  • Pray for your spouse as he is also invited in to be a part of this process because dad’s play a very significant role in their daughter’s BECOMING. 

“Too often, women who carry wounds from their own fathers or who have been betrayed, abandoned, or harmed by their husband allow their pain to seep into their daughter’s perceptions of men. Hold out hope for her story to be different and trust that not all men are so wounded that all they can do is harm.” -Beth Bruno

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Joining other moms pouring into our girls…

Do you have a teen or tween daughter? Would you like to join us this year Sept-Sept reading a book called A Voice Becoming? It is a YEARLONG mother-daughter journey into passionate, purposed living!

I will be posting encouragement and extra goodness here on my blog each month! Just click on Mother/Daughter Year and print/use whatever you need to make your year even better! I’m printing off many of the charts I will post here in a folder so I have it right at my fingertips when other moms ask about this later OR when I’m ready to do this again one day with my youngest daughter!

We would love to have you join us!

Also–if you want to follow along we created a Facebook private group called “The Barn Gathering – A Voice Becoming” that you can join! I will also be sending out an email at the beginning of each month. If you would like to be added to that just email me or pm me through Facebook or Insta (andreapyoung)

Here is the first email:

Dearest Moms of Tween and Teen Girls,

You blinked! Doesn’t it just seem like yesterday we were squealing we were buying PINK and a little girl was coming?! Here we are years later walking with our moms on a journey to raise strong, brave, godly teenage girls. I’m so excited you are joining me on this “yearlong mother-daughter journey into passionate, purposed living”.

The way this book works is there are 2 parts–the first part preparing MOM (you!) for the journey. We will go through those chapters faster.–and then the 2nd half will be 2 month themes. I’m putting the months below–but remember you can have a different launch schedule and create a folder for these monthly emails so you have them at your fingertips when you launch!

  • INTRO & PART ONE. (This is how we are breaking down the chapters for our year together…)
  • Chapter 1 (Sept) The first chapter is talks about something our culture considers what moms talk to their tween/teen girls about “periods and purity” but as you start to read it you will quickly see that this book is going to challenge a PERSPECTIVE SHIFT to so much more.
  • Chapter 2 (Sept) is setting the stage for your BECOMING journey with your daughter.
  • Chapter 3 (Sept) is THE INVITATION–the letters you can write to challenge her to join you on this journey.
  • Chapter 4 (Oct) “WHERE HAVE YOU COME FROM?” is LAUNCHING the journey with a special weekend–a trip or getaway remembering where you have come from–as we dream together about where God is going to take our girl!
  • WOMEN LEAD – Nov-December (Includes dad)
  • WOMEN LOVE – Jan-Feb (includes grandmas and aunts)
  • WOMEN FIGHT – March-April (includes family friends)
  • WOMEN SACRIFICE – May-June (includes siblings)
  • WOMEN CREATE – July-August (creative/art friend & dad)
  • LEGACY Event “Where are you going?” – SEPTEMBER – Any moms/daughters who completed this timeline the same as ours is invited to our barn for The Amazing Race…there will be a ceremony, worship and fireworks! (If you did this with us in another city–you are invited! If you know me–I go big or go home!)

Some of you may be asking when is the best time to really do this? The author chose to do this journey when her daughter was 12. My daughter is 14–and we are going to do it now. If your daughter is under 10, I would recommend waiting until she is at least in middle school. If your daughter is in high school, I also think it’s the perfect time to dream together and build their confidence who they are in Christ before they go to college. BUT if you have a younger daughter–SAVE THESE EMAILS…archive them or print them and put them away to use when she is older or you have another daughter ready to do this too.

You might want to wait officially launching this with your daughter at her birthday or a special age–but it can really be at any time so we are going for it now (also #2020 could use a pick-me-up of dreaming big…AMEN?!). I want to have a perspective shift on 2020 so we are going to LAUNCH our journey together in October (doing this my daughter’s 9th grade year so it sets the stage for the rest of her years in high school and college!). If you have a 6th, 7th or 8th grader–I think the books’ challenge and content is PERFECT for both middle and high school ages as well.

While we wait for everyone to get their books in–we will just read the INTRO and Chapter 1 for September. The chapters are short–for October we will read Chapters 2 and 3–and give ideas for letters and launching. Ideally you would plan a little weekend to challenge your daughter where she receives letters from you before you begin the year. If you aren’t ready to start you can save each of my monthly letters in a folder to use later when you think your daughter is ready. (Be thinking of a weekend or night away in October to launch!)

Praying over each of you as you love your daughters radically as Jesus loves! There is STRENGTH in numbers and collectively with in-person and email/Facebook we have OVER 125 moms doing this with their girls! How exciting is that?! When you feel tired, remember you are not alone. Jump on over to our Facebook group for ideas and encouragement throughout your journey. What a privilege it is to encourage you as you love your girls big!

Love,
Andrea

For SEPTEMBER:

  • Read INTRO and CHAPTER 1 – The “periods and purity” talk will happen at different stages and ages for all moms and daughters–THIS is NOT that book;). Instead Ch.1 offers a different perspective to bring to the table when you are ready for those talks. (There are countless amazing resources for these talks. I’ll post a few on our Facebook Book Group too!)
  • JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP TO SHARE AND SEE MORE IDEAS EACH MONTH. Each month you can hop over to the FB group to be encouraged by others ideas or share an idea that you have! Iron sharpens iron! The group is called “The Barn Gathering – A Voice Becoming”, so please request to join (it’s a private group) and I’ll add you. ONCE you are in the group please feel free to invite your mom friends with teen girls. ALL are welcome:)  Here you will see additional ideas that go with each chapter.
  • PLAN A NIGHT AWAY TO LAUNCH. Go ahead and start thinking about a weekend away with your girl! Time wise, I’m going to plan a weekend away in mid OCTOBER. If you want to “launch together”–go ahead and think about a night away some where, a dinner out or a time you can have your daughter all to yourself to challenge her to join you in the year ahead preparing to launch together October-ish. Also–isn’t there just something dreamy about October?!
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